Most people I coach who have an affair in their marriage are scared. This is the bottom line. They are terrified - of losing their family, of facing the unknown, of their world falling apart - and believe they have no control.
I want to help you understand EXACTLY what you are up against and to know EXACTLY what you can do to turn the tide of the affair.
You find relief and confidence in knowing what faces you. Hear how some people are helped by knowing what's in front of them:
I learned that the kind of affair I was facing and that it was not my FAULT. I also practical strategies to get my life going.
....has helped me pick my path, so to speak, of what I will (and will not) do next. Laura
Although all of type #4 seems to fit my situation like a glove, I highlighted the most strongest points that apply there as well. And I must tell you, it was shocking when I first read #4, it was as if you were a fly on the wall during this whole thing. It's scary to think that other people in the world have experienced the same thing. I thought it was just her doing it to me.
Do you know what kind of affair faces you? Yes, affairs are certainly different. Here are the 7 kinds I outline. I'll give you the title and very brief description of each:
1. My Marriage Made Me Do It
Ask someone why they had, or are having an affair and you may hear something like this: "I have a lousy marriage. My marriage is dead. There is no intimacy, no sex, and no excitement. The love is gone. We've grown apart. I can't stand the marriage. There was nothing happening in the marriage and the affair just happened."
2. I Can't Say No
People can't say no? Well, I believe we all have the capacity, at some level, to say no. However, not all have developed that capacity or reached that level to firmly say no and mean it. Some have many "unconscious" tugs and pulls that lead to an affair. They are "stuck" and seem to lack the ability to consistently act on the "no." Please remember that all of us are "grabbed" by something and find it difficult to let go. One's history, personal development and internal blocks play a role here.
3. I Don't Want to Say No
Some people just don't want to say no, and they believe they don't have to say no. The older term of "philanderer" applies. Their relationships are marked by a series of sexual conquests, and that's what they basically are - nothing more than the thrill of the score.
4. I Feel Out of Love (and just love being in love)
I find this dilemma rather common for younger couples, probably mid or late 30s and younger. Usually one reports, "falling out of love" and is truly disturbed by this shift. He/she (and this is not merely a female problem!) wants to "recapture" those feelings. This person has found a "significant other" who has stirred those dormant feelings and this person once again "feels in love." They are determined not to "settle" for a less than ideal relationship, which means, of course, feeling the love feelings.
5. I Want to Get Back at Him/Her
This is the revenge affair. It occurs in a marriage in which one feels slighted in some manner and seeks revenge by engaging in an affair. It is less a movement toward the other person and more a movement away from one's spouse.
6. I Need to Prove My Desirability
Let's face it: Most of us are on pretty shaky grounds when it comes to our sexuality. Look at the models before us on TV, the big screens and magazines. Geezzz-louise, how is anyone ever to feel as if they measure up or are desirable? Also, a key in a marriage is the degree to which someone feels wanted. I want to be wanted. After "familiarity" sets into a marriage, self-doubts are easily rekindled. (A key component of "being in love" is the giddy feeling of thinking I am deeply wanted or adored. If one does not understand the stages of marital growth or lacks a core sense of self from which to live, he/she becomes prey to confusion and disenchantment.)
7. I Want to Be Close to Someone (which means I can't stand intimacy)
A marriage or relationship of investment is a dance - a dance of joining and distancing. A couple moves close with the purpose of joining and being one and after a fashion moves apart to claim their own space and uniqueness. Usually we choose or are attracted to someone with the same comfort zone in the distance/joining continuum or with a similar capacity for joining and/or distancing. The couple does their dance to balance the pull for joining and the push for individual space and expression. Intimacy is the capacity to talk about and the freedom to move between joining and individual expression. Someone has an affair because ostensibly they say that want to be close to someone. However, a relationship with a third party is NEVER intimate, but may serve the purpose for that person of never having to be intimate with anyone, although someone may feel close. Got this!?
Pinpoint the affair in the middle of your life and begin to feel the relief and power as you truly understand the reasons for the affair.
In my ebook, Break Free From the Affair, I go on to break apart each kind of affair in terms of:
•Key Points•Characteristics of the person who engages in that kind of affair.•What can I expect will happen?•Will they live happily ever after?•What are the odds of saving the marriage?•Do you really want to save the marriage?•What you can specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage
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Marriage Makeover: 74 Stars to Shoot For
Here's a little exercise for you and your spouse to help you get on the same page after marital infidelity or a marriage or relationship crisis.
Instructions
The objective is to narrow the list down to the top 5 characteristics you want to shoot for or see happen in your marriage or relationship now.
1. Print out 2 copies of the chart.
2. Each person scan through the 74 characteristics a couple times or more. Get a sense of how they differ. Note which ones tend to grab you or hold your attention. Remember, these characteristics describe an ideal relationship.
3. Each person go back over the list and place a check mark by each on the scale of 1-10. The #10 means that characteristic stands out or grabs you as something vitally important and you want to shoot for that beginning now.
4. One person shares with the other the top 5. The person may make comments. However, make sure you NEVER refer to your partner or spouse as someone who must do that something for you to make something happen. Do not place any responsibility on the other. You are merely declaring what is vitally important for you now. The other person may ask questions, but they are for clarification only. The other is to listen and listen well with an underlying curiosity.
5. The other person shares the top 5 characteristics with the same rules and concerns applying.
6. If you begin to swirl, hit the wall or the communication breaks down, stop the process.
7. If the exercise generates positive give and take marked by a high degree of acceptance and curiosity, keep it going.
8. This is very important for me and others as we develop some hard-hitting and highly effective tools for everyone trying to not merely put back the pieces, but create something deeply more rich and satisfying.
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Instructions
The objective is to narrow the list down to the top 5 characteristics you want to shoot for or see happen in your marriage or relationship now.
1. Print out 2 copies of the chart.
2. Each person scan through the 74 characteristics a couple times or more. Get a sense of how they differ. Note which ones tend to grab you or hold your attention. Remember, these characteristics describe an ideal relationship.
3. Each person go back over the list and place a check mark by each on the scale of 1-10. The #10 means that characteristic stands out or grabs you as something vitally important and you want to shoot for that beginning now.
4. One person shares with the other the top 5. The person may make comments. However, make sure you NEVER refer to your partner or spouse as someone who must do that something for you to make something happen. Do not place any responsibility on the other. You are merely declaring what is vitally important for you now. The other person may ask questions, but they are for clarification only. The other is to listen and listen well with an underlying curiosity.
5. The other person shares the top 5 characteristics with the same rules and concerns applying.
6. If you begin to swirl, hit the wall or the communication breaks down, stop the process.
7. If the exercise generates positive give and take marked by a high degree of acceptance and curiosity, keep it going.
8. This is very important for me and others as we develop some hard-hitting and highly effective tools for everyone trying to not merely put back the pieces, but create something deeply more rich and satisfying.
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Do You REALLY Want to Save the Marriage?
Make sure you don't jump past this question too quickly. It is important!
Actually this question helps you take responsibility and begin the change process.
If you are serious about saving the marriage and want to learn exactly what you can say and do to switch the momentum of the affair and marriage, you must begin with this question.
This question gets at the truth. And, only the ferreting out of the truth will put you on the road to breaking free from the affair, and perhaps saving your marriage - if that is what you REALLY want.
So, take some time. Think hard. Be brutally honest. This is your first step toward breaking free and getting the life and relationship you really want.
Here are just a few of the questions I pose for the "offended" partner for Affair #1: My Marriage Made Me Do it.
1. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you want the feelings of embarrassment and humiliation to end? You thought this would never happen to you. It might be difficult to face family, friends, or coworkers.
Do you mull over what you could have said or done to prevent the affair? Do you think of yourself as a failure and are eager to reclaim your confidence and self-esteem?
2. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you long for the way it used to be? Do you long for the predictability and the seeming comfort of your marriage in past days? Do you assume that by getting your marriage back, to where it was, things will be better? (Note: You will never go back. It will never be the same. Those days are gone and will not return. Your relationship will be different, guaranteed. It can be better!)
3. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you miss your old role - of being the strong one, the one in control and the one who held it together? (This does not apply in all kinds of affairs.) Do you feel lost, not sure of whom you are, what to do and "at loose ends?"
Breaking free from the affair and moving toward saving the marriage will mean you will need to develop the freedom to assume different roles and to act differently in the relationship. Do you really want to do that? Are you willing to expand who you are?
4. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you want vindication against the other person? Do you feel like you have lost out to this other person? You came in second? Does that bother the heck out of you and having the "marriage back" would mean that you stick it in the face of the other person?
Is competition stirring your juices?
5. Do you really want the marriage back or do you primarily want to end the pain? The pain of abandonment and being alone can be exceedingly intense. Do you think you can handle it? Endure? Actually learn from it? Or, are you intent upon the affair ending and getting the marriage back to eradicate your pain?
6. Do you really want the marriage back even though you might not like your spouse very much and perhaps you doubted the wisdom of getting married in the first place?
There are innumerable reasons why we marry. Some conscious. Most of them unconscious. Couples who possess rock solid certainty that their marriage was meant to be and had few if any doubts on the wedding day are a rarity.
Give this question some serious thought. Perhaps the affair is a symptom, sign or indication that the marriage was in serious trouble from the get-go. Perhaps not only your spouse, but you have reflected on the validity of the marriage or a secret desire to be somewhere else.
I provide more questions to ponder for this kind of affair and more questions related to "Do I REALLY want to save the marriage?" for the other 6 affairs in Break Free From the Affair.
For more details click here
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Actually this question helps you take responsibility and begin the change process.
If you are serious about saving the marriage and want to learn exactly what you can say and do to switch the momentum of the affair and marriage, you must begin with this question.
This question gets at the truth. And, only the ferreting out of the truth will put you on the road to breaking free from the affair, and perhaps saving your marriage - if that is what you REALLY want.
So, take some time. Think hard. Be brutally honest. This is your first step toward breaking free and getting the life and relationship you really want.
Here are just a few of the questions I pose for the "offended" partner for Affair #1: My Marriage Made Me Do it.
1. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you want the feelings of embarrassment and humiliation to end? You thought this would never happen to you. It might be difficult to face family, friends, or coworkers.
Do you mull over what you could have said or done to prevent the affair? Do you think of yourself as a failure and are eager to reclaim your confidence and self-esteem?
2. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you long for the way it used to be? Do you long for the predictability and the seeming comfort of your marriage in past days? Do you assume that by getting your marriage back, to where it was, things will be better? (Note: You will never go back. It will never be the same. Those days are gone and will not return. Your relationship will be different, guaranteed. It can be better!)
3. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you miss your old role - of being the strong one, the one in control and the one who held it together? (This does not apply in all kinds of affairs.) Do you feel lost, not sure of whom you are, what to do and "at loose ends?"
Breaking free from the affair and moving toward saving the marriage will mean you will need to develop the freedom to assume different roles and to act differently in the relationship. Do you really want to do that? Are you willing to expand who you are?
4. Do you really want to save the marriage or do you want vindication against the other person? Do you feel like you have lost out to this other person? You came in second? Does that bother the heck out of you and having the "marriage back" would mean that you stick it in the face of the other person?
Is competition stirring your juices?
5. Do you really want the marriage back or do you primarily want to end the pain? The pain of abandonment and being alone can be exceedingly intense. Do you think you can handle it? Endure? Actually learn from it? Or, are you intent upon the affair ending and getting the marriage back to eradicate your pain?
6. Do you really want the marriage back even though you might not like your spouse very much and perhaps you doubted the wisdom of getting married in the first place?
There are innumerable reasons why we marry. Some conscious. Most of them unconscious. Couples who possess rock solid certainty that their marriage was meant to be and had few if any doubts on the wedding day are a rarity.
Give this question some serious thought. Perhaps the affair is a symptom, sign or indication that the marriage was in serious trouble from the get-go. Perhaps not only your spouse, but you have reflected on the validity of the marriage or a secret desire to be somewhere else.
I provide more questions to ponder for this kind of affair and more questions related to "Do I REALLY want to save the marriage?" for the other 6 affairs in Break Free From the Affair.
For more details click here
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Break Free From The Affair. Strategies And Resources To Break Free From The Affair In A Marriage
Stop the Agony of the Affair
Get back to your old self...or someone better
Save Your Marriage... if you really want to
"Is 'Not Knowing' Killing You Inside ... Or Your Marriage? Are You Tired of All The Lies And Excuses? Are You Afraid That You'll Confirm Your Suspicions? More Importantly, Will You Ever Find Happiness Again, If It Does Exist?"
I assume you are like 1,000s of others jolted by the affair, asking these questions: (Substitute the word she for he if you would like.)
•Do I throw him out?•Or, should I let time heal?•Will the affair stop?•How long will it last?•Can my marriage be saved?•Should I talk to the other spouse?
•Will I ever be able to trust again?•How do I get rid of my anger and ugly thoughts?•Where did I fail?•Will I ever forgive? Forget?•Should I spy?•and more...
n 5 minutes I will put on your computer screen the answers, strategies and never-before-published knowledge base you MUST have to:
Get through this faster! Gain confidence. Clear the fog of confusion and diminish the pain.
Have the crazy days, sleepless nights, absent appetite and queasy stomach fade.
Find the strength and courage you never thought you had. Exude a new power. He will notice and it will shake his world.
Know in your heart that the affair is not your fault. No more self-blame and self-loathing. (You really did your best, you know)
Know exactly why he had the affair. You will know him better than he knows himself.
In the next 6 months turn this disaster into a new opportunity.
Melt your rage and hurt into understanding and eventually compassion.
Become an expert in affairs. Outsmart him and the OP.
Be tough AND patient and understanding.
Eyeball him and he will be the first to blink.
Surprise yourself and partner with your newfound wisdom and insight.
Have a REAL chance to stop the affair.
Say the right words that shake your partner to the bone so he stops to truly consider the folly of the affair.
7 Key Steps, Guaranteed to help you Break Free…
My E-book convinces you that the affair is not your fault. This shift in your thinking is vitally important if you truly want to break free from the affair.
The affair is HIS problem. It is THEIR problem. What you did or did not do did not "cause" the affair. He CHOSE that avenue to solve his dilemma. Did you make mistakes? Sure, we all do. Could you have done some things differently? Of course! He could have also! You are NOT defective. No one is a better lover or person than you. Nothing is wrong with you!
ou MUST Pinpoint the EXACT Kind of Affair Facing You
People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. Affairs are exceedingly complex, but there are patterns that you can identify.
What works to break free from one kind of affair will be disaster for another. Are you confused? Not sure what to say? What to do? Afraid that saying one thing might be destructive? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells?
Identify specifically what you are up against and you will feel more confident because you know exactly what will work and what will not work.
When you order Break Free From the Affair, you receive this innovative e-book to help you with confronting your partner.
HOW TO "GET OVER IT" FOR GOOD!The CURE for Every Upset
In this 48 page e-book, Paul and Layne Cutright teach you how to transform your experience of arguments and upsets in your relationships. Rather than avoiding confrontation and "walking on eggshells", you will be able to safely and constructively talk about things that are hard to talk about.
For more details click here
Get It & Download It Now
Get back to your old self...or someone better
Save Your Marriage... if you really want to
"Is 'Not Knowing' Killing You Inside ... Or Your Marriage? Are You Tired of All The Lies And Excuses? Are You Afraid That You'll Confirm Your Suspicions? More Importantly, Will You Ever Find Happiness Again, If It Does Exist?"
I assume you are like 1,000s of others jolted by the affair, asking these questions: (Substitute the word she for he if you would like.)
•Do I throw him out?•Or, should I let time heal?•Will the affair stop?•How long will it last?•Can my marriage be saved?•Should I talk to the other spouse?
•Will I ever be able to trust again?•How do I get rid of my anger and ugly thoughts?•Where did I fail?•Will I ever forgive? Forget?•Should I spy?•and more...
n 5 minutes I will put on your computer screen the answers, strategies and never-before-published knowledge base you MUST have to:
Get through this faster! Gain confidence. Clear the fog of confusion and diminish the pain.
Have the crazy days, sleepless nights, absent appetite and queasy stomach fade.
Find the strength and courage you never thought you had. Exude a new power. He will notice and it will shake his world.
Know in your heart that the affair is not your fault. No more self-blame and self-loathing. (You really did your best, you know)
Know exactly why he had the affair. You will know him better than he knows himself.
In the next 6 months turn this disaster into a new opportunity.
Melt your rage and hurt into understanding and eventually compassion.
Become an expert in affairs. Outsmart him and the OP.
Be tough AND patient and understanding.
Eyeball him and he will be the first to blink.
Surprise yourself and partner with your newfound wisdom and insight.
Have a REAL chance to stop the affair.
Say the right words that shake your partner to the bone so he stops to truly consider the folly of the affair.
7 Key Steps, Guaranteed to help you Break Free…
My E-book convinces you that the affair is not your fault. This shift in your thinking is vitally important if you truly want to break free from the affair.
The affair is HIS problem. It is THEIR problem. What you did or did not do did not "cause" the affair. He CHOSE that avenue to solve his dilemma. Did you make mistakes? Sure, we all do. Could you have done some things differently? Of course! He could have also! You are NOT defective. No one is a better lover or person than you. Nothing is wrong with you!
ou MUST Pinpoint the EXACT Kind of Affair Facing You
People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. Affairs are exceedingly complex, but there are patterns that you can identify.
What works to break free from one kind of affair will be disaster for another. Are you confused? Not sure what to say? What to do? Afraid that saying one thing might be destructive? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells?
Identify specifically what you are up against and you will feel more confident because you know exactly what will work and what will not work.
When you order Break Free From the Affair, you receive this innovative e-book to help you with confronting your partner.
HOW TO "GET OVER IT" FOR GOOD!The CURE for Every Upset
In this 48 page e-book, Paul and Layne Cutright teach you how to transform your experience of arguments and upsets in your relationships. Rather than avoiding confrontation and "walking on eggshells", you will be able to safely and constructively talk about things that are hard to talk about.
For more details click here
Get It & Download It Now
The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question” (Priceless or Worthless?) Here’s The Book Review
Let’s face it, one of the biggest problems you face, when planning to pop the question, is finding a unique, creative and romantic way to do it.
So does “The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question” really provide you with quality stories, ideas and inspiration for an unforgettable marriage proposal?
First of all, the book contains 101 stories in total, and after reading just the first fifteen stories, I knew this is exactly what men need to make their proposal exceptional. I found myself leaning back in my chair, saying, “wow,” after reading many of the stories.
In fact, every time I thought they couldn’t get any more creative and imaginative, they did! Just wait till you read what everyone did with their cars and bodies in story #13it was incredible! And the creative way a guy proposed in the cinema! And the horseback proposal “with a twist” that will totally blow you away!
Not to mention, this book also has the 25 WORST marriage proposals that will have you laughing your guts out! These were so enjoyable that I’ve been sharing them with friends ever since.
Now, the only problem I have with the book is that it makes other proposal stories (even half-decent ones) look terrible! I mean these stories are unheard of anywhere else. If you’re thinking of proposing or know someone who’s about to, then tell him or her about this book right now!
You can learn more about the book at… http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For more details click here
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So does “The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question” really provide you with quality stories, ideas and inspiration for an unforgettable marriage proposal?
First of all, the book contains 101 stories in total, and after reading just the first fifteen stories, I knew this is exactly what men need to make their proposal exceptional. I found myself leaning back in my chair, saying, “wow,” after reading many of the stories.
In fact, every time I thought they couldn’t get any more creative and imaginative, they did! Just wait till you read what everyone did with their cars and bodies in story #13it was incredible! And the creative way a guy proposed in the cinema! And the horseback proposal “with a twist” that will totally blow you away!
Not to mention, this book also has the 25 WORST marriage proposals that will have you laughing your guts out! These were so enjoyable that I’ve been sharing them with friends ever since.
Now, the only problem I have with the book is that it makes other proposal stories (even half-decent ones) look terrible! I mean these stories are unheard of anywhere else. If you’re thinking of proposing or know someone who’s about to, then tell him or her about this book right now!
You can learn more about the book at… http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For more details click here
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3 Ways To Find the PERFECT Proposal For Your Girlfriend
By Michael Webb
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Did you know that the most memorable marriage
proposals are also the most creative and unique?
Problem is, the more you want to blow her away, the
more frustrated and stressed you become by trying
to come up with an original idea!
Not to worry.
Here are 3 ways to get your creativity flowing and
come up with your winning proposal idea:
1. FIND THE "PERSONAL" TOUCH
Aww… your girlfriend likes restaurants. Well guess
what? So does everyone else!
You need to dig for those unique and special things
about your girlfriend that stand out, and use them
as your starting point for proposal inspiration.
Nothing speaks louder than a proposal that says, “I
love you and understand you deeply” at the same
time.
If you're stuck for ideas, grab a piece of paper
and think back to all the memorable moments while
you two were dating. What are her favorite things
to do? What place does she hold dear to her heart?
If she grew up on the beach, maybe you could take
her to a high cliff near a magnificent beach where
she grew up, and arrange for her to see the words,
"Kim, will you marry me?" written in giant letters
on the sand down below as the sun sets.
As another example: I once knew a girl who was totally
OBSESSED with Superman. So in this case, instead of
parachuting into a party to propose, why not do it
in a Superman costume?
See where I'm going here? Your first step to a
perfect proposal is making a list of all the things
that are special to your loved one and using them
as inspiration for your proposal.
2. ASK HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY
Believe it or not, no matter how long you’ve been
dating, you’ll almost always discover some new
“little known facts” about your girlfriend by
simply asking her family and close friends. While
these hidden gems might not spark a proposal idea
themselves, they'll certainly guide you in the
right direction and further inspire you.
3. FIND THE **WOW** FACTOR
Want to know if your proposal will be exceptional?
Explain your proposal idea to a female friend and
if she isn't "mouth-hitting-the-floor-with-astonishment"
surprised, go back to the drawing board!
I'm serious.
This is the most important moment in her life (and
yours!) If the proposal stinks, what’s she going to
think about the YEARS ahead? Some people say that
you should keep proposals "safe" or "simple" by
doing something that everyone's already done
before, but considering 80% of women said their
proposals were less romantic than they'd hoped for,
isn't that telling you something? While most men
spend lots of money on the ring, they often lack
originality, which leaves the woman feeling
disappointed.
In conclusion, if your proposal doesn't excite
friends and family, it certainly won't excite your
wife-to-be.
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “The Romantic’s Guide
To Popping The Question,” a book filled with 101
Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals, hand-picked
as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329
entries in his worldwide competition. To learnmore, visit: http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For more details click here
Get It & Download It Now
http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
Did you know that the most memorable marriage
proposals are also the most creative and unique?
Problem is, the more you want to blow her away, the
more frustrated and stressed you become by trying
to come up with an original idea!
Not to worry.
Here are 3 ways to get your creativity flowing and
come up with your winning proposal idea:
1. FIND THE "PERSONAL" TOUCH
Aww… your girlfriend likes restaurants. Well guess
what? So does everyone else!
You need to dig for those unique and special things
about your girlfriend that stand out, and use them
as your starting point for proposal inspiration.
Nothing speaks louder than a proposal that says, “I
love you and understand you deeply” at the same
time.
If you're stuck for ideas, grab a piece of paper
and think back to all the memorable moments while
you two were dating. What are her favorite things
to do? What place does she hold dear to her heart?
If she grew up on the beach, maybe you could take
her to a high cliff near a magnificent beach where
she grew up, and arrange for her to see the words,
"Kim, will you marry me?" written in giant letters
on the sand down below as the sun sets.
As another example: I once knew a girl who was totally
OBSESSED with Superman. So in this case, instead of
parachuting into a party to propose, why not do it
in a Superman costume?
See where I'm going here? Your first step to a
perfect proposal is making a list of all the things
that are special to your loved one and using them
as inspiration for your proposal.
2. ASK HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY
Believe it or not, no matter how long you’ve been
dating, you’ll almost always discover some new
“little known facts” about your girlfriend by
simply asking her family and close friends. While
these hidden gems might not spark a proposal idea
themselves, they'll certainly guide you in the
right direction and further inspire you.
3. FIND THE **WOW** FACTOR
Want to know if your proposal will be exceptional?
Explain your proposal idea to a female friend and
if she isn't "mouth-hitting-the-floor-with-astonishment"
surprised, go back to the drawing board!
I'm serious.
This is the most important moment in her life (and
yours!) If the proposal stinks, what’s she going to
think about the YEARS ahead? Some people say that
you should keep proposals "safe" or "simple" by
doing something that everyone's already done
before, but considering 80% of women said their
proposals were less romantic than they'd hoped for,
isn't that telling you something? While most men
spend lots of money on the ring, they often lack
originality, which leaves the woman feeling
disappointed.
In conclusion, if your proposal doesn't excite
friends and family, it certainly won't excite your
wife-to-be.
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “The Romantic’s Guide
To Popping The Question,” a book filled with 101
Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals, hand-picked
as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329
entries in his worldwide competition. To learnmore, visit: http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For more details click here
Get It & Download It Now
5 Marriage Proposal Mistakes That Leave Women
Did you know that a man once hospitalized his
girlfriend trying to propose to her?
It’s true! He slipped the engagement ring into her
shot glass and as they toasted to his speech, she
swallowed it! Now, she survived, but they did need
a trip to the emergency room.
In fact, it's ‘embarrassing yet funny’ proposals
like these that remind me of the 5 ways that guys
totally DESTROY this precious moment for women by
making horrendous mistakes. Please don’t make these
mistakes…
1. CREATING A PUBLIC SPECTACLE
Whether it's a party, family get-together or Yankee
game, realize that you should never propose to your
beloved if she wouldn't feel comfortable with a
public proposal. Not only may it embarrass her, but
she may feel pressured to say "Yes," only to tell
you the truth later. Bottom line, think about what
sort of person your lady is: Is she shy, cautious
or a little reserved? Then maybe a private proposal
is the better way to go.
2. "OVER-DOING" THE PROPOSAL
Some men's idea of an amazing proposal is slapping
together all the “usual” romantic things into one
big event and calling it a "marriage proposal."
Sadly, this couldn't be further from the truth. For
example: A man serves the candlelit dinner,
presents her flowers, chocolates, a teddy bear and
then proposes to her.
Yuck. I'm sorry, but if you believe your lady
deserves the most magnificent experience of her
life, then understand that normal "everyday
romance" is only good for… everyday romance! not
a proposal. She’ll never admit it, but she'll most
likely be disappointed.
3. BEING UNPREPARED
You usually only get one shot at your proposal so
you MUST get it right! No pressure :D. Always
rehearse through the things that could go wrong,
create backup plans and please make sure your
proposal idea is safe! If you’re creating a more
elaborate proposal, you’ll need extra caution.
Physically rehearse through the situations,
discover what could go wrong and work out solutions
around them. Get your friends together and
brainstorm the sticky situations that could come up
on the day. Of course, life is unpredictable and
things may change but be prepared the best you can.
4. SPENDING TOO MUCH MONEY
Hang on! You’re probably wondering, “How is
spending TOO MUCH money on a proposal a problem?”
Well it all depends. The problem with money is that
it often becomes a substitute for creativity. As a
result, you get a "nice" memorable proposal but
nothing that's “jaw-dropping!”
5. USING A "DONE TO DEATH" PROPOSAL IDEA
Now here’s the biggest mistake of them all. Yes,
coming up with creative and original ideas to
propose is tough, but it's a must if you want your
moment to be remembered and talked about for years
to come!
Your proposal needs to be personalized to your
girlfriend. What are her favorite hobbies, music
and interests? These are the starting points to an
incredible proposal that everyone will talk about
for years.
While the Eiffel tower, hot air balloons and
getting the waiter to bring out the ring on a
platter are "okay" ideas, they’re not creative and
original enough for the most important and
memorable moment of both your lives.
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “The Romantic’s Guide
To Popping The Question,” a book filled with 101
Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals, hand-picked
as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329
entries in his worldwide competition. To learn
more, visit: http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For More details click here
Get It & download It Now
girlfriend trying to propose to her?
It’s true! He slipped the engagement ring into her
shot glass and as they toasted to his speech, she
swallowed it! Now, she survived, but they did need
a trip to the emergency room.
In fact, it's ‘embarrassing yet funny’ proposals
like these that remind me of the 5 ways that guys
totally DESTROY this precious moment for women by
making horrendous mistakes. Please don’t make these
mistakes…
1. CREATING A PUBLIC SPECTACLE
Whether it's a party, family get-together or Yankee
game, realize that you should never propose to your
beloved if she wouldn't feel comfortable with a
public proposal. Not only may it embarrass her, but
she may feel pressured to say "Yes," only to tell
you the truth later. Bottom line, think about what
sort of person your lady is: Is she shy, cautious
or a little reserved? Then maybe a private proposal
is the better way to go.
2. "OVER-DOING" THE PROPOSAL
Some men's idea of an amazing proposal is slapping
together all the “usual” romantic things into one
big event and calling it a "marriage proposal."
Sadly, this couldn't be further from the truth. For
example: A man serves the candlelit dinner,
presents her flowers, chocolates, a teddy bear and
then proposes to her.
Yuck. I'm sorry, but if you believe your lady
deserves the most magnificent experience of her
life, then understand that normal "everyday
romance" is only good for… everyday romance! not
a proposal. She’ll never admit it, but she'll most
likely be disappointed.
3. BEING UNPREPARED
You usually only get one shot at your proposal so
you MUST get it right! No pressure :D. Always
rehearse through the things that could go wrong,
create backup plans and please make sure your
proposal idea is safe! If you’re creating a more
elaborate proposal, you’ll need extra caution.
Physically rehearse through the situations,
discover what could go wrong and work out solutions
around them. Get your friends together and
brainstorm the sticky situations that could come up
on the day. Of course, life is unpredictable and
things may change but be prepared the best you can.
4. SPENDING TOO MUCH MONEY
Hang on! You’re probably wondering, “How is
spending TOO MUCH money on a proposal a problem?”
Well it all depends. The problem with money is that
it often becomes a substitute for creativity. As a
result, you get a "nice" memorable proposal but
nothing that's “jaw-dropping!”
5. USING A "DONE TO DEATH" PROPOSAL IDEA
Now here’s the biggest mistake of them all. Yes,
coming up with creative and original ideas to
propose is tough, but it's a must if you want your
moment to be remembered and talked about for years
to come!
Your proposal needs to be personalized to your
girlfriend. What are her favorite hobbies, music
and interests? These are the starting points to an
incredible proposal that everyone will talk about
for years.
While the Eiffel tower, hot air balloons and
getting the waiter to bring out the ring on a
platter are "okay" ideas, they’re not creative and
original enough for the most important and
memorable moment of both your lives.
About the author:
Michael Webb is the author of “The Romantic’s Guide
To Popping The Question,” a book filled with 101
Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals, hand-picked
as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329
entries in his worldwide competition. To learn
more, visit: http://item0612.proposals.hop.clickbank.net/
For More details click here
Get It & download It Now
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